I was having a conversation with my husband recently about the difference in how we like to spend money. What I realized is that he likes both experiences AND material things whereas I mostly want to buy experiences. More specifically, travel experiences.
While I don’t think it is bad to want things, the more we talked the more I realized why he wants those things. He helped me realize that he wants things that give him experiences while he is home. So he doesn’t necessarily want to buy things that just sit in the house on a shelf doing nothing, he wants things like an xbox, mountain bikes, and other typical guy hobby things.
It got me thinking… why don’t I have anything like that that I want to do when I am home?
And it hit me.
When I am home, I feel like I am supposed to be doing something.
Since I am a stay at home mom, I feel like my job is never ending. Because where is my job?
Now it took some explaining to get my husband to realize that I wasn’t complaining by saying this. I LOVE having the opportunity to stay home with my kids and be a homemaker. But I realized that that (coupled with my no chill type A personality) makes it hard for me to relax at home.
Really the only time I relax at home is after the kids are asleep for the night and I can crawl into bed to scroll on my phone while I watch tv.
So maybe that’s another reason why I love traveling and getting out so much. Because then it gives me a break from my responsibilities at home.
I dont have to think of something that needs cleaning or organizing when I am out adventuring and traveling in a new destination. Or what fun but educational activity I should be facilitating for my toddler. I just get to experience that place and have fun.
AGAIN. I don’t think there is anything wrong with this. It was just a major realization I had as we talked all this through.
But it stayed with me for a while after we had this conversation. And it made me want to want to be at home.
I am not saying I don’t want to go adventure at every chance I get anymore, I’m just saying I want to enjoy the time in between adventures more.
We pay a lot of money to have a home we love to raise our family. I want to enjoy being there and appreciate it more.
I share this really to just give you a glimpse into my brain and maybe give you reassurance that you’re not alone if you also feel this way about your home as a stay-at-home mom.
So this Home Life section of The ExplorList is to share the in-between adventure moments. What our days look like when we are embracing our beautiful home. Hopefully what I share here can be just as useful as the other pages on our site <3